Tag: change

Don’t Settle for Safe!

Missy Steadman

A friend of mine posted this recently on Instagram. I let the statement roll around in my mind for a while.

Usually the word safe is linked with security. While it is good to be safe and secure physically, it other aspects of your life, it can be a lead weight that stagnates your personal growth.

Safe can be financially responsible. However, it can create a chokehold on increasing your growth.

Safe is staying exactly where you are, doing the exact same thing you’ve always done. However, if you want to grow personally and financially, you have to get out of the comfort, safe, zone and explore! You have to take chances and ask the hard questions, get over the fear and jump!

Tomorrow is my last day to work in the water industry. This is an industry that I’ve grown up in, literally working for my mom during high school, while paid in clothes. Then starting, officially, as a 19 year old college student in the office as a file clerk. I worked my way up while earning a college degree, to several positions of leadership. After 24 years, I will say good bye to an industry that has taken care of me and my family. All for what? To jump off into the unknown. All for the potential of exponential growth. More growth than I could ever achieve in the water industry.

Determination is what will drive me. Hard work is what I will do to make my dreams come true. Determined hustle is what I will focus on to crawl my way out of the comfort zone. I truly believe the results will speak for themselves and will make the journey worth it!

I’m tired of settling for safe. I want more! I want to do more! I want to help more! I want to be more! Just watch!

How do you design your own life?

Missy Steadman

What do you vision your dream life to be like? Focus, be real, and think about what it would look like to you.

Now think about what your life is like right now. What would you change? Think about financially, physically, emotionally. Think about relationships with family, friends, coworkers and teammates.

To help me create and maintain a vision of my future, I create a vision board each year. I can’t wait until after Christmas to work on my 2019 board! I’m already thinking of what I want to put on there! There will be some repeats from the last couple of years (I think big!) and there will be new goals and dreams to add.

For the past 2 years, I’ve wanted the income of my side hustles, yes I have 2 businesses, to pay for my boys select soccer expenses along with the expense of sending them to Pine Cove each summer. I have achieved these goals! However, starting next week, my side hustles will become my main hustle as I leave my full time job at the end of this week. So my main financial goal for 2019 is much bigger!

Personally, I’ve focused my mind and thoughts to Choose Joy. Life throws you curve balls, you have control on how you react. Will you be bitter, resentful, or angry, or will you rise above the chaos, control your thoughts and choose joy? I refuse to let others control my thoughts and emotions. I have removed, or at least lessened my time around people who are negative. I don’t want to be that way, and I won’t spend time with people who are either.

You cannot control other people’s actions, but you do have control over yours. You have to make the choice to change. You can design your own life through change. It’s up to you. What are you waiting on?

Don’t Point Out Flaws

Missy Steadman

Public Service Announcement: Don’t point out other people’s flaws in order to sell them something! It’s just rude. No one wants to buy anything from a rude person.

I know, I know, you have something to help them. You are just trying to help, because you care! I understand that, but until they care enough to help themselves, it doesn’t matter! They also could have accepted the flaw as part of who they are naturally.

See, that was me 3 years ago. I’ve been overweight most of my life. I didn’t need anyone to point that fact out to me. I’m smart, I can read and study for myself the dangers of being overweight, and the solutions for how to lose weight. However, I didn’t care, nor was I motivated to change.

Then we moved 3 years ago. I was tired and exhausted from the process of moving, and yet still had to be a wife, mom, and employee. I would come home from work, and if I sat down, I didn’t want to get back up! Yet, my boys, in effort to fit in and make new friends, tried out for select soccer. Of course, I wanted them to make the team and achieve their goals and dreams… but I was the one stuck taking them to soccer practice 4 nights a week! I didn’t want to go to the grocery store, and I certainly didn’t want to cook, so we ate out all of the time!

My husband was picking up the slack in my failings, yet I was resentful of him having all the “fun” with the boys. I felt like I had become a spectator in my own life while everyone was living life around me! My husband kept asking, what is wrong, and I would look at him like he was crazy for not being able to figure it out!

I knew something had to change, and that change had to start with me! I was finally ready for something different, and no pushing or prodding by others could force me to make that change. It was up to me!

For the last 3 years, I’ve taken the baby steps necessary to make positive changes in my life. Through personal development, I’ve learned, over time, that the only person I have control of is me, and I needed to be in control… not time demands, not food, and not others. I’ve gained my health back. I’ve got energy to go to the gym, cook, and interact with others, even after a long day.

Through watching others, I found help, gently… not a quick fix, but a lifestyle change. True change, on my timing, with God’s help. I’m participating in life again, and I’m finding joy in the journey. I’m excited about changes for the future! I’m a very different person than I was 3 years ago, and I can’t wait to see what the next 3 years bring! The next changes for me are giant leaps; baby steps are no longer enough!