Choose Wisely

I once asked a very successful woman to share her secret with me. She smiled and said to me…
“I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters.
I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me…
I stopped fighting with my family…
I stopped fighting for attention…
I stopped fighting to meet peoples expectation of me…
I stopped fighting for my rights with inconsiderate people..
I stopped fighting to please everyone…
I stopped fighting to prove they were wrong about me….
I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…
And I started fighting for my vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny.
The day I gave up on small fights is the day I started becoming successful & so much more content.”
Some fights are not worth your time….. Choose what you fight for wisely.

Good for Great

Think of all the good things in life…you know, your likes… Think of the shows you like to watch on TV. The money you like to spend. The sweets you like to bake.🤔

Now, what if you exchanged those for something great? What if you gave up something you liked in order to have something you love? It may take time. It may take effort. It may take work, but don’t you think in the end it would be totally worth it? What can you sacrifice now to have something great? ❤

Thinking about Quitting?

Why is it that when something gets hard, our first instinct is to quit? 🤔
New exercise routine gets hard, quit.
New diet gets hard, quit.
New project gets hard, quit.
Relationship gets hard, quit.
Job gets hard, quit.

However, we can look our kid in the eye, and tell him to keep going! That’s what practice is for! You only need to build up your endurance! You can do it!

I guess it’s time to start listening to our own words! Yes, I can do it…keep going!😍 I am determined to continue after my dreams!


Who wants a normal or average life? 🤔

Not me! I want a life of abundance! I want to love abundantly, give abundantly, and live abundantly! ❤

I want to be wierd! I don’t want to be a normal American living pray check to pray check! I want to help others instead of just being focused on myself!

I want to grow and continue reading instead of binge watching the latest season on Netflix. I want to be amazing! 🤗

Less Criticism

Rachel Hollis was on a roll the other day, and I’ve been thinking about this further! She didn’t care about what was said about her, but her point in talking about the criticism she received about a podcast was about why people criticize others at all. Someone stopped what they were doing yesterday just to write a bad review. How could time be better spent? How about being creative? 🗣

Oh the power of words! When we are critical of each other, what actually gets accomplished? Nothing much! 🤷‍♀️ However, what happens when we use our creativity? Beautiful things can be made, moments are created, and the world is better! 😍

But let’s not forget about the critical things we say to ourselves! The phrases that are repeated inside our own heads daily. How can we change those thoughts? Yesterday, I talked about the tool of imagination that God gave each of us. What if we used that tool and became creative with the our daily thoughts? What if we visualized the positive changes that are coming? What if we changed? Oh what can we create? 🎉

Need help or ideas on where to begin? Try reading! A great list was started on my Facebook post yesterday! I know I’ve added to my own wish list.📖 Growing mentally and spiritually is a great way start that creativity going! 💪

When Dreams become a Burden

We have a dream, we make a goal, we set about the activity to make it all come true, but somehow during the process we become overwhelmed. Let’s talk about when dreams become a burden.

Some can say that we are distracted. Some will say that you just have to push through. Some will say to avoid the drama or the person causing the drama. Some will say you can’t worry about it and to just focus.

However, what if it’s family? What if it’s not just drama, but real life issues interfering into your day? What if it’s your marriage you need to work on? What if it’s one of your kids? These are real life burdens!

How do you deal with all of this and still focus on your dreams? You still want to achieve your goal, but you must take care of life too. Your activity for your goals then becomes another burden that you must take of too.

I feel like when you are dealing with real life issues, you must consider adjusting your timeline. God gave you a dream and the desire to achieve that goal, but maybe it’s not supposed to happen in the next 6 months…maybe it will happen within the next year. You must evaluate the timeline of dealing with the life issues, and then re-evaluate your goal deadline. Can you still work a little towards your goal instead of full speed while dealing with the issue?

One thing I would advise against if allowing yourself to have a pity party; set a timer if needed. I know you feel like you’re giving something up, that you are giving up on your dreams, but you aren’t really… It’s just postponed a little. Keep that vision or goal in front of you at all times to remind yourself that your dream is still there no matter what you are facing. Let it help you to focus, deal with, and get past the issues in a timely or faster manner. After all, you have a dream and you were made for more!

And for my friend who is currently dealing with real life burdens, you know who you are. God has made you strong! He has made you strong for your family, your husband, your personal life, and your business goals! He will help you during this time of postponement. He will give you the desire and ability to get through this and to move on to bigger and better things! Just think how your experience will be able to help others, how your patience will be an inspiration to others, and how much joy you will find in the end! Postpone, but don’t wait forever. You were made for more!

Morning Routine

As a follow up to watching Rachel Hollis’ Made for More Encore, I am covering one of the 5 steps to success each day. Today addresses your Morning Routine.

How do you set your day up for success? Rachel gets up an hour earlier than the rest of her household so she has time for herself. This is when she writes in her journal and when she heads to the gym to work out each day. This is a time to invest in herself before she gives to anyone else.

What is your morning routine like? I confess, while I have good intentions, so far, mine is not very set. I don’t like to get up early. I can get up for mom duties, but I’d rather sleep until at least 7am. However, even today, getting up at 6 for mom duties to make lunches, and then change to head to the gym, I still find it getting later and later in the morning. I was done at the gym and going home by 9, but I was not at the gym for 2 hours. I need to manage my time better and more intentionally. I guess I have the fear of missing out when it comes to certain social media activities, and I get easily distracted by other things I need to do.

I feel like I should be back from the gym around 8am, leaving the rest of the morning and afternoon available to get things done for my business. It should not take me 2 hours to do hair and makeup either. My boys tease me about being slow, but I don’t think I’m as slow as so much as I am distracted. I am determined to get these activities under control and start my morning routine in a productive manor that helps me to succeed.

Take Care of Yourself

As a follow up to watching Rachel Hollis’ Made for More Encore, I am covering one of the 5 steps to success each day. Today is simple, take care of yourself.

As a wife and mom, I had a tendency to put others first and neglect myself. Three years ago, I made a change since I knew something had to give in my life, and it needed to start with me.

Rachel states that if you don’t take care of yourself first, you cannot fully take care of others. She really addressed this in her Last 90 Days series.

  • Get plenty of rest each night. (She suggests at least 8 hours.)
  • Get up an hour early before the rest of the household to take care of yourself and your goals first.
  • Work out at least 30 minutes each day.
  • Drink half of your body weight in ounces of water each day.
  • Eat foods that bless your body.

Being healthy is not just being at a certain weight number for your height, it’s about how you feel. Do you have the energy and stamina to take care of yourself and the ones you love? Do you have mental fog that clouds your decisions? Does your gut tell you maybe you shouldn’t have eaten that piece of pizza?

Although my journey to being healthy is still going, I have come a long way. I feel good, even though my weight is not ideal. I will continue to go to the gym 5-6 times a week since I am DETERMINED to reach my goal weight. The rest, water, and getting up early are fairly easy for me to handle. Now to focus on my food…hmmm that might be another post for another day! At least I know my premium nutrition take each morning fits inside of this goal!

Begin as you mean to go on…

These words popped into my head this morning. Why, because my new beginning starts today! A lot of people use January 1st as a new beginning. However, when you quit your full time job on December 21st, you do not have the luxury of waiting another week. So today, I start my new routine.

Now this routine is a work in progress. I know I have certain things I want to get accomplished each day. I want to rise early to avoid interruptions. I want to exercise at the gym 5-6 times a week. I want to read or listen to personal development every day. I want to write a blog daily. Then, I must work my business daily! The work in progress comes from the finesse of this daily routine….what works on normal week days may not work while the boys are home on winter break. However, it all must get done!

This is where determination comes in. I have big goals. I have big dreams. I am determined to hustle has long and as hard has possible to accomplish them. You see, no one but myself can make these dreams come true. Time to go to work!

Change is Hard, but Change is Good

For the last 6 years as a Business Process Improvement Coordinator, I have repeated this phrase many, many times. Usually to others, but sometimes to myself, as words of encouragement during a time of change.

Times of change get us out of our comfort zone and gives us the opportunity to learn new things! When we learn new things, we grow! We grow in knowledge, we can grow in confidence, and we can even grow financially.

Technology is a huge catalyst for change for most people. However, there are some people, like my dad, who live afraid of it to a certain degree and will never make a purchase online. I, on the other hand, have embraced it and run 2 business with a device that I hold in my hand! Technology allows us the streamline and accomplish tasks quickly and on the go if needed.

While change can be hard during the learning curve, usually looking back over the journey it was not that hard. We have three capability to adjust, if we allow ourselves to do so.

Today, I am changing my life. Today, it will be hard to say goodbye to coworkers who are like family. However, thanks to technology, they really won’t be that far away. Today, change is hard, but I know tomorrow will be good. I need to be reminded of these words of encouragement.