Tag: connect

Random Acts of Kindness Day

Missy Steadman

Social media is a tough place to participate in daily. 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s a place where people share through the lens of love and kindness, but also through the lens of fear and negativity. We have to choose how we will participate…which lens will we use? 🤔

We have to not only filter what we post, but filter out the negativity and fear of others. It is an influence to our daily mental grind and actions towards others.

Today is Random Acts of Kindness today. Do something kind for a stranger. Do something kind for a friend. Do something kind for a family member. Pay for the prison behind you in the drive through. Not going out today? Send a note in the mail or through messenger to brighten a friend’s day. Big or small, the act is never wasted. 🌞🤗🥰

Transform

Missy Steadman

Don’t just learn, experience.
Don’t just read, absorb.
Don’t just change, transform.
Don’t just relate, advocate.
Don’t just promise, prove.
Don’t just criticize, encourage.
Don’t just think, ponder.
Don’t just take, give.
Don’t just see, feel.
Don’t just dream, do.
Don’t just hear, listen.
Don’t just talk, act.
Don’t just tell, show.
Don’t just exist, live.

Roy T. Bennett

You are a Blade

Missy Steadman

Who do you hang around with? Do they make you a better person? Do they challenge you to be better? Do they support your dreams and goals, cheer you along the way, and give you a real talk when needed? 🎉

Or do they bring you down? Discourage instead of encourage? Bring criticism and negativity into your life? 🤷‍♀️

My team, my tribe, is always sharpening my blade! It was an unexpected blessing that came when I said yes to an opportunity. The women and men who came into my life when I stepped out of my comfort zone help me be a better person. 💯

That opportunity is available to you too…if you’re ready!💪

Evaluate Your Goals

Missy Steadman

Have you evaluated your goals to make sure they are your goals? 🤔

I’m not talking about your dreams, but the actual goals to achieve in order to make your dreams come true. Are they yours? Or do they belong to your boss, your team leader, your director, your spouse, your friend, etc? Is the goal something you just think you should be going after because that is what is expected of you? Has your goal changed, but you are afraid to make the change?🤷‍♀️

Use these last few months of the year to evaluate your goals, the direction God wants you to go, and make the necessary changes if needed. Change is hard, but change is good. If your goals haven’t changed, then chase after them hard with discipline and belief! 💪

There are options available to you to help you achieve YOUR goals… some may be in an unfamiliar package, but it is worth checking out! Message me if you want to hear more about these options! 😍

Listening Skills

Missy Steadman

This morning, I was listening to a leader speak about the art of listening, and this question came to mind. Does the way someone talks, impact the way you listen? 🤔

If someone has an accent, do you listen differently? Because southerners speak slowly, are they dumb? No. Because someone has a northern accent, are they mean? No. Because someone is speaking English as a second language, are they clueless? No. Do Californians speak so fast that there is no way they are listening to us since they are already forming their next thought? No.

Yet, as we listen, are we internalizing those thoughts, and therefore it is affecting the way we listen? Daily, even as adults, we must continue to work on our listening skills. Listening is the second part of communication that often is overlooked… yet it’s a critical part! 🗣👂

I want to be a good listener.😍

Boy Mom

Missy Steadman

I wear this hat proudly. My boys love when I wear this hat. They love when Richard and I both make it to their games, whether it’s football or soccer. They know we’re there to support them in whatever they choose to participate in. I think they even like it when I scream like a crazy fanatic (see what I did there?) while cheering their team to victory. Yes, they know my voice; no, I don’t yell at the refs, they are human too.🏈

While I am by no means a tiger mom, nor am I a helicopter mom, I do try to be there for everything. I’m not good at hugging sweaty boys, but I’ll give high fives and fist bumps all day long. I do not coddle these young men I’m raising, but instead encourage them to not let their teams down and to give their all on the field of play. Play whatever position the coach puts you in without complaint and do not ask for a sub just because you are hot. Suck it up buttercup is a common phrase at our house. We do not talk about the faults of other players because we have no control over them, your responsibility is to make sure you are playing your best, listen to the coach and be coachable. ⚽️

It’s hard to parent a teenager, an athlete, a child. Each stage of a child’s life brings another challenge. How hard do you push your child to be their best? I’m learning that you have to push and then pull back often. They have to learn the life lessons on their own sometimes. They must go after their own goals and put in the work themselves. 💪

And I will be the cheering them on all the way!🎉🎉

Connect and Recharge

Missy Steadman

Can I get mushy for a moment? 😍

Any time you see Richard and I together, most likely we are holding hands. We hold hands just about any time we are sitting next to each other, when we are walking through a parking lot, when we’re in the car together, and even in church! 🤟

For us, this isn’t some form of PDA, it’s about connection. We spend most of the day apart while he is at work, and then well, we are parenting at home, at the football field, or the soccer field. We also run businesses that call our attention away from each other. So when we’re together…we connect and recharge.⚡

I’m sure a sciencey friend could probably explain the hormones or the mental triggers of the brain, but for us, it’s just a simple thing. I know it strengthens our marriage. I know it sets an example of what love looks like to our boys. And I know when I’m away, I can’t wait to get back home to my husband and recharge! ❤